Proverbs for Wednesday: Called to Counsel

The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. –  Proverbs 20:5


We can all be pretty complicated creatures at times. We don’t necessarily understand ourselves. Why we do what we do, and why we behave in particular ways?

There are times when we need and appreciate someone else walking with us to help… Our spouse, close friend, Pastoral carer, Pastor, maybe at times a trained counsellor. God uses them all to draw out the purposes of our heart; to help us understand ourselves and the reasons why we behave as we do.

There are times when we are the people God wants to use to be the helpers; to help to draw out what is in the deep waters in someone else.

There are three simple but classic questions counsellors use to draw out the purposes of our heart, concerning issues a person is facing.

#  What does it make you think?

#   What does it make you feel?

#   What does it make you do?

(Of course, we only question someone in this way with their permission).

Thinking, feeling and acting are all there swimming around in the ‘deep waters’. These questions are a simple approach we can use to help providing we do it sensitively and gently.

As Christians God gifts us to come alongside one another amidst all that life brings, providing a ministry of support and understanding. The Bible teaches us that God gives gifts of discernment, wisdom and knowledge in our interactions with one another. (* Read 1 Corinthians 12:4-11)

A large part of that understanding is that it is the Spirit of God who uses us, in the process of helping and supporting one another.

The lamp of the Lord searches the spirit of a man it searches out his inmost being. – Proverbs 20:27.

We are called to be people of understanding and competent to bring counsel. Has the Lord placed someone in your life at this time for the purpose of supporting them in their life purposes and direction?

PRAYER: Father we thank you today for the fellowship of believers and the support we both give and gain to and from one another. Thank you that you enable us by your wisdom, insight and understanding.

Open our eyes to see the people around us you particularly want us to encourage. AMEN

Search me o God, my actions try, and let my life appear,

As seen by thine all-searching eye, To mine my ways make clear.

 HYMN: Search Me O God –